Be lucky - it's an easy skill to learn
Those who think they're unlucky
should change their outlook and discover how to generate good fortune, says
Richard Wiseman
A decade ago, I set out to
investigate luck. I wanted to examine the impact on people's lives of chance
opportunities, lucky breaks and being in the right place at the right time.
After many experiments, I believe that I now understand why some people are
luckier than others and that it is possible to become luckier.
To launch my study, I placed
advertisements in national newspapers and magazines, asking for people who felt
consistently lucky or unlucky to contact me. Over the years, 400 extraordinary
men and women volunteered for my research from all walks of life: the youngest
is an 18-year-old student, the oldest an 84-year-old retired accountant.
Jessica, a 42-year-old forensic
scientist, is typical of the lucky group. As she explained: "I have my
dream job, two wonderful children and a great guy whom I love very much. It's
amazing; when I look back at my life, I realise I have been lucky in just about
every area."
In contrast, Carolyn, a 34-year-old
care assistant, is typical of the unlucky group. She is accident-prone. In one
week, she twisted her ankle in a pothole, injured her back in another fall and
reversed her car into a tree during a driving lesson. She was also unlucky in
love and felt she was always in the wrong place at the wrong time.
Over the years, I interviewed these
volunteers, asked them to complete diaries, questionnaires and intelligence
tests, and invited them to participate in experiments. The findings have
revealed that although unlucky people have almost no insight into the real
causes of their good and bad luck, their thoughts and behaviour are responsible
for much of their fortune.
Take the case of chance
opportunities. Lucky people consistently encounter such opportunities, whereas
unlucky people do not. I carried out a simple experiment to discover whether
this was due to differences in their ability to spot such opportunities.
I gave both lucky and unlucky people
a newspaper, and asked them to look through it and tell me how many photographs
were inside. On average, the unlucky people took about two minutes to count the
photographs, whereas the lucky people took just seconds. Why? Because the
second page of the newspaper contained the message: "Stop counting. There
are 43 photographs in this newspaper." This message took up half of the
page and was written in type that was more than 2in high. It was staring
everyone straight in the face, but the unlucky people tended to miss it and the
lucky people tended to spot it.
For fun, I placed a second large
message halfway through the newspaper: "Stop counting. Tell the
experimenter you have seen this and win £250." Again, the unlucky people
missed the opportunity because they were still too busy looking for
photographs.
Personality tests revealed that
unlucky people are generally much more tense than lucky people, and research
has shown that anxiety disrupts people's ability to notice the unexpected. In
one experiment, people were asked to watch a moving dot in the centre of a
computer screen. Without warning, large dots would occasionally be flashed at
the edges of the screen. Nearly all participants noticed these large dots.
The experiment was then repeated with
a second group of people, who were offered a large financial reward for
accurately watching the centre dot, creating more anxiety. They became focused
on the centre dot and more than a third of them missed the large dots when they
appeared on the screen. The harder they looked, the less they saw.
And so it is with luck - unlucky
people miss chance opportunities because they are too focused on looking for
something else. They go to parties intent on finding their perfect partner and
so miss opportunities to make good friends. They look through newspapers
determined to find certain types of job advertisements and as a result miss
other types of jobs. Lucky people are more relaxed and open, and therefore see
what is there rather than just what they are looking for.
My research revealed that lucky
people generate good fortune via four basic principles. They are skilled at
creating and noticing chance opportunities, make lucky decisions by listening
to their intuition, create self-fulfilling prophesies via positive
expectations, and adopt a resilient attitude that transforms bad luck into
good.
I wondered whether these four
principles could be used to increase the amount of good luck that people
encounter in their lives. To find out, I created a "luck school" - a
simple experiment that examined whether people's luck can be enhanced by
getting them to think and behave like a lucky person.
I asked a group of lucky and unlucky
volunteers to spend a month carrying out exercises designed to help them think
and behave like a lucky person. These exercises helped them spot chance
opportunities, listen to their intuition, expect to be lucky, and be more
resilient to bad luck.
One month later, the volunteers
returned and described what had happened. The results were dramatic: 80 per
cent of people were now happier, more satisfied with their lives and, perhaps
most important of all, luckier. While lucky people became luckier, the unlucky
had become lucky. Take Carolyn, whom I introduced at the start of this article.
After graduating from "luck school", she has passed her driving test
after three years of trying, was no longer accident-prone and became more
confident.
In the wake of these studies, I think
there are three easy techniques that can help to maximise good fortune:
·
Unlucky people often fail to follow their intuition when
making a choice, whereas lucky people tend to respect hunches. Lucky people are
interested in how they both think and feel about the various options, rather
than simply looking at the rational side of the situation. I think this helps
them because gut feelings act as an alarm bell - a reason to consider a
decision carefully.
·
Unlucky people tend to be creatures of routine. They tend
to take the same route to and from work and talk to the same types of people at
parties. In contrast, many lucky people try to introduce variety into their
lives. For example, one person described how he thought of a colour before
arriving at a party and then introduced himself to people wearing that colour.
This kind of behaviour boosts the likelihood of chance opportunities by
introducing variety.
·
Lucky people tend to see the positive side of their ill
fortune. They imagine how things could have been worse. In one interview, a
lucky volunteer arrived with his leg in a plaster cast and described how he had
fallen down a flight of stairs. I asked him whether he still felt lucky and he
cheerfully explained that he felt luckier than before. As he pointed out, he
could have broken his neck.
Richard Wiseman is a psychologist at
the University of Hertfordshire. His book, The Luck Factor (Century), is
available at all the leading book-stores
as well as online.
Source:
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/technology/3304496/Be-lucky-its-an-easy-skill-to-learn.html
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